This is what it feels like
“I have worked with many therapists, teachers and healing modalities, but some stuck patterns felt almost impossible to shift. Hebe was the first person who helped me find real space and movement in those places.
Hebe wields not only this highly effective modality of somatic experiencing, but also a remarkable intuitive wisdom.
I have often been frankly amazed by the insights offered.
Importantly the process feels very grounded with Hebe, which means I can sit with the most uncomfortable feelings whilst staying anchored in the body in a way that works with the nervous system not against it.
In just one example: At one particularly difficult moment in my life, after I had already sought advice from every direction I could, Hebe’s guidance proved to be the turning point. It was not something I wanted to hear at the time, but it helped prevent me from going down a destructive path and instead having one of the most important conversations of my life with a family member. I remain deeply grateful for that.”
⚘ TK
"Reflecting on the past year has prompted me to reach out and send you an email. I want to thank you for the journey you have facilitated for the past six months or so. Having worked since I was a teenager with all sorts of therapists, medicines and practices, I have never arrived at the place of somatic spaciousness, groundedness and emotional resilience that your support and tools have provided me. The path that you have set me off is heping to tame the fluttering, fleeing bird that has lived long inside me and replacing it with a deep-seated sense of trust and patience in the uncertainty of life. You have also helped me to see that the "real world" is not something that I need either to escape or tolerate, but rather that I can choose to inhabit it more fully and in this way, live a more embodied, alive and resonant life. Of course, I don't necessarily feel so philosophical or inspired on a daily basis, but I wanted to share these reflections with you because they speak to the huge shift in my way of being and seeing this year that you have supported.
What's more, it is precisely this reorientation of my inner landscape that has enabled me to finally take external action in my life after a long and stagnant period. I am off to India in a week and I have just been accepted on the Teach First programme (hopefully to teach English / Literature) for a September start. Things can always change, but I finally have a vision for the near future, and it feels very rewarding to be able to see again!
Thank you for all you have done to facilitate this work. Our sessions began as a haven and ultimately became something of an education in being; providing me with the tools to navigate these challenges myself. I have been so inspired by how you show up to the work, and how you have seemed to integrate your intellectual / creative / somatic / spiritual and emotional experiences and study to be able to provide a truly rigorous and therapeutic lens. I am not only inspired because your approach has been transformative for my sense of wellbeing, but also because you exemplify the marriage of so many of my interests into work which seems endlessly fascinating, satisfying and in service of life - something I really aspire to.”
⚘ SBC
“There are very few therapists I trust enough for me to feel completely safe, safe enough to surrender to the healing process and allow my body wisdom and felt sense to do what they need to do and go where they need to go. Hebe is one of those special few who I trust unequivocally to hold the quality of space I need. She is always deeply grounded, impeccably present throughout the session and I feel the full weight of her wisdom, compassion and intuition supporting me.”
⚘ AK
"My work with Hebe has distinctly complimented my recovery from a mind-body illness. I found non somatic forms of therapy can help you get to the why's of illness but not the how's of recovery and release, however Hebe's work does. I knew from my first session that Hebe had the therapeutic approach I needed and I have advanced more in my sessions than any of the previous talking therapy modalities I've tried."
⚘ ET
“I met Hebe and discovered Somatic Experiencing during one of the darkest periods of my life, when I was overwhelmed by my chronic illnesses and depression. I knew I needed to give myself a real chance to change direction, and I was searching for a different way to relate to my body and my conditions. Something in me was immediately drawn to Hebe and to somatic work, and I felt deep down that this was the right path.
It’s hard to put into words how profoundly Somatic Experiencing has helped me and how much it has changed my life.
I know now that I’m healing and evolving constantly, and I feel incredibly fortunate to have Hebe as both a guide and a witness on this journey. She has opened my eyes to the endless possibilities of who I can become and helped me recognise that the capacity to heal has always existed within me. Through this work, I’ve learned to accept every part of myself, even the messy, painful, or uncomfortable parts, especially those.
I know I still have a long road ahead, but now I carry so many tools to navigate life with more resilience and emotional capacity than ever before. I’m not the same person I was when I started, and I could never go back to who I was before this experience. For all of this, I am deeply and forever grateful to Hebe.
Many thanks for all the journey we’ve shared so far.”
⚘ FB
“Working with Hebe over the last 6 months has allowed me to move out of a tormenting, fearful state I've held for my whole adult life. Hebe's gentle holding, wisdom and guidance have allowed my inner system to reorganise in a way that's impacted my relationship and business, and just the way I move through the world. I now embody more of a sense of being enough just as I am. Thank-you!”
⚘ ER
“Working with Hebe over the last 6 months has allowed me to move out of a tormenting, fearful state I've held for my whole adult life. Hebe's gentle holding, wisdom and guidance have allowed my inner system to reorganise in a way that's impacted my relationship and business, and just the way I move through the world. I now embody more of a sense of being enough just as I am. Thank-you!”
⚘ ER
The Unbecoming
A poem by AW
I arrived in a body that had learnt to hold everything tight,
With sensations stored quietly just out of my sight.
A body not asking for fixing or answers or ways to be saved,
Just permission to listen to the signals that my system once gave.
So you showed me how to embrace my trauma to start really feeling it
To lean into the discomfort that is cleverly concealing it
Allow the layers to fall away, eventually revealing it
And send love to that place to start the journey of healing it
My inner child screams that they knew I would abandon them
as their rage pounds the cage of my ribs thats surrounding them
Tension rises as I feel them, my throat stifling their shout,
The wave of loneliness and sadness fuels their need to act out,
Their heart full of fear and their worth wracked with doubt
Feeling unsure, unwelcome
And totally pushed out
And then the invitation comes to ground, breathe and just be
And to ask what they need with compassionate curiosity
Create them a container built on love and safety
Modelled on a new way of being... somatically
I'm learning that two feelings can exist and both be invoked
That I can acknowledge heaviness whilst also feeling elated by hope
And instead of either/or it can be 'and' and 'too'
And to trust myself deeply and believe in MY truth
And I am learning, gently, that progress doesn’t need to shout
Sometimes it’s simply being allowed to say 'I hurt' out loud
Becsuse what has happened to me doesnt define who I am
But it shapes the mistakes that I make and it takes time to reprogram
Im now starting to look at myself from a different view
Not fractured or failing, just human and true
Seeing patterns as protectors, not a demand
Reframing my thoughts to respond and not to command
But there are still times I shut down because this is so hard
and im met with kindness, compassion
unconditional positive regard
And in feeling safe and held a pattern disrupts
And in embodying that feeling habits deconstruct
Ive learnt that healing isn’t ladders,
it’s circles, spirals and waves
A rhythm my body remembers
from ancestral days
Because this journey isn’t about becoming anything new
It’s the unbecoming of everything that is untrue,
The loosening of stories, some never mine,
The slow unwinding of tightly stitched time
And I welcome in all that is present and connected
the parts of me i love and those id rejected
I'm guided with empathy through all my hesitation
And thus begins the creation of self-love, self worth and self-validation
So I honour this practice of staying and choosing to ground
Of tracking the truth as it rises and not from head down
For the steadiness you've offered, the space held with care,
For the trust in my timing and for meeting me there.
And this gratitude settles not spoken but wired,
In pathways re-patterned, responsive, INSPIRED
for sharing your nervous system and helping me grow,
And for walking with me through body, through breath, to the find truth of my soul
And now I stand at the threshold, still becoming, still here
Feeling the quiet tremor beneath what comes next appear.
A new way of offering presence, of holding space with care,
Not from theory or training, but from having been there.
I’ve been walked through my journey by hands steady and kind,
Shown how to listen beneath story, sensation and mind.
So I step forward gently, with reverence, not claim,
Knowing im not something to fix, or solve, or tame.
I carry what taught me, how to ground, how to stay,
How to honour the pace that each body will choose on its way.
And I meet this new calling the same way I learned to begin
With humility, with grounding, with breath…
And gratitude from within